Some Advantages of Being Ugly

In our society today, as I have stated a lot on this blog, our pursuit of beauty and sexuality has become an unnatural obsession. In our technological age of the Selfie our search for external validation to insane beauty standards has only increased narcissistic tendencies and a dissatisfaction with how we look.  We prick and poke ourselves to make sure others can ” like” us. We literally make ourselves to be objects , especially young girls. As a consequence, there is an obsession over being beautiful. Well let’s look at some advantages of being ugly :

A couple of advantages to being ugly :

1. No one is ever ugly to someone they love.
2. Here are some unconventional people who are amazing despite having been told they are ” ugly”
Maya Angelou
Barbara Streisand
Margaret Thatcher
Condaleeza Rice
Iggy Pop
Steve Tyler
Amy Winehouse
Ronaldinho
Steve Buscemi
Sasha Baron Cohen
Quentin Tarantino
Wolowitz

All succesful , have been loved and are so incredibly talented. They don’t rely on their looks they rely on all the things that WON”T change over time which is their God given talents.

3. The people that will love you will love you for your confidence and personality. That can only get better quicker.

4. You don’t have to worry about other people’s opinion on you and you can focus on your opinion of yourself

5. No one cares when you die if you were beautiful.

6. Beauty is overrated. Generosity , kindness and love never is.

7. Even if you are beautiful, people might not take you seriously or think you have no problems. You are never beautiful enough. A lot of people develop body dysmorphia or issues with plastic surgery because they think they have to be perfect all the time.

8. Every single guy that I have known who is not that handsome has married girls who are amazing inside and out. Someone, somewhere appreciates what they have to give. While for women it’s harder to come by, I have met some girls who have quality husbands/ boyfriends. That’s because the people who DO notice you are gonna notice you for the right reasons. You don’t have to filter though / go through hoops with women or men who don’t want you for the right reasons.

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Women and Moral Relativism

Modest. What does that mean exactly?  In western society, no one blinks twice if a woman is wearing a small short dress but in central america she could be judged about that.  It seems that our notion of what is ” decent” or ” adequate” for people differs from country to country.

But this lies a deeper issue. When a woman gets groped, or someone talks about her in a derogatory way the immediate response is to shame the woman and not the perpretator.  We live in a society that perpetuate a beauty myth where women are objects to consume, and we  propagate this rape culture to such a degree that woman themselves are objectifying themselves. They seek approval purely based on the society’s standard of what they should look like, the fantasy they are creating for men. Men are increasingly encouraged to simply see women as objects of desire.

Why are we so concerned about what women wear and not the direct attitudes that we propagate in our society as a whole? HOw do we achieve a more universal concept of modesty?  The problem is that we externalize our own sense of decency on others. What we really should be focusing on is how we see ourselves. We should really have to stop thinking in terms of whether or not a woman is dressed appropriately and start thinking of why our thoughts were led there in the first place.  Even if a woman is naked, she is cannot control or is responsible for other people’s behavior . She can merely control her own. We still live in a place where girls are always blamed and sexualized no matter what they do, and even when they come to terms with their own self they are still blamed for it.

The same might go for looking at a woman where a Hijab. We might judge her as fanatical or modest or repressed but do we truly know her midn or what she stands for? Why are we externalizing our visual cues to give full meaning of what a person is and represents? Can we truly transcend these societal norms to see each other for what we are which is all human beings? Can women walk in the street and really trust that no harm will come to them and truly trust men who are not to blame for their past experiences? Can see beyond paradigms of gender to see that we all share the same human experience?