I have Little Patience for Stupid People

I don’t have patience for the Gap ad guy who never deems to say hello because I was not the right race, or good looking enough to deem that I exist. I don’t have the patience for the woman behind the counter who spews out racist slurs based on the fact that I was speaking another language with someone from another race. I don’t have the patience for the snobby designer wearing girl who cares only about makeup and appearances. I don’t have the patience for the old lady who talks too much.

And then I remember that I ignored some poor woman because she didn’t say anything interesting. I remember how I spoke English in front of people who didn’t understand. I remember how I didn’t say hello to someone who lit up when they saw me. I remember I walked past by someone so that I didn’t have to say hello. I remember all those times I misjudged someone because of how they spoke, or looked, or dressed. I remember all the times that I somehow forgot, and broke someone’s heart a little.
And then I realize that I am that snobby girl that I hate.

Someone, somewhere will always brush by you, or mistreat you by accident. You can have two choices : Either you brush past it and you realize how little control you have over the situation or you spend time burning with hate and remembering all those little reasons of impatience over someone who frankly doesn’t remember.

At times we tend to bite our tongues and smile through, finding that easier than having to deal with the questions and answers people pose . Combating ignorance has nothing to do with where you live but how you view the world.

Here are some of the stupidest questions TCK’s get asked when going ” Home”.

” Do they have roads in X country?”

”  Does everyone live in the jungle?”

” Do people eat with their hands:”

” It’s really dangerous there, isn’t it?” ( this is made in a rhetorical obvious tone)

” How can you stand the heat there”

And, when going back to X country you are faced with several questions such as :

” How come your not blonde and blue eyed like all other americans?”

” It’s o.k. you have a lot of money anyways, I mean all Americans have money.”.

Ignorance is something that pervades every corner of the earth. We are given images of how countries are based on superstitions, taboos and limited view of the media. Case in point  : At times mainstream media tends to show the worst parts of a ” Third world” country , the dirtiest, most garbage ridden part.  And americans tend to e portrayed as having an idealized , rich and worry free life : The American Dream

All of these are lies of course based purely on our own misguided misconceptions. TCK kids have the advantage that they are always the outsider, and find themselves constantly defending other countries, places and people.

At times we tend to bite our tongues and smile through, finding that easier than having to deal with the questions and answers people pose .  Combating ignorance has nothing to do with where you live but how you view the world.