Wingeyes Weekly Picks

So I am a bit swamped with work and won’t be able to write a huge amount today,so I decided to create a little piece every Sunday of some picks of things, books, movies and places that I find interesting.

I Am

If you haven’t checked this film out, I definitely would recommend it. Everything I talk about this blog, and much more is explained here. It is done by the director of Bruce Almighty, and he questions his lavish lifestyle and seeking a culture of competition. He goes on to interview the top scientists, philosophers and religious leaders for answers.
Why it’s inspiring : It shows what is really important with strong scientific evidence, without being preachy .

The Wasteland

Another inspiring documentary, this film depicts an artist’s journey to try to empower the most impoverished communities in Brasil, those who pick up trash in the wastelands. He went in looking for victims, but instead found a vibrant community proud of what they did and finding ways to improve their world. We follow the stories of a couple of them, from the start to where he takes their picture and they build art from the dump to decorate the photographs to when or if the art is sold into auction. Not only do you leave the theater not bogged down by the world’s problems but you end up feeling a sense of hope and love and empowerment.

Exit Through the Gift Shop

Banksy, the prolific street artist has been anonymous for his whole career. We supposedly follow an aspiring filmaker in his odd and quirky relationship with banksy. Except, the documentary takes an odd turn when the person who is filming becomes the subject as prepares to launch his own street art, leaving his fellow artist baffled at how easily he achieved it. A sly comment on the elitist nature of art and it’s almost thoughtless process in picking what is popular, it is debated even if it is a documentary but in fact a finely executed acted film.

Weekly Book Picks

Non Fiction : Bad Science
I am not naturally one who orbits to science, but this is written so well that it makes it a joy to read. It opens your eyes on how we blindly assume that under the guise of something being science, it can necessarily be factual. He blows the lid wide open on the whole market of pseudo science- detoxing, beauty myths, nutrition, homeopathy, etc.

House of Spirits
Love magic realism and love this book. It’s just a good story . Set in chile , it spans three generations and speaks of a time where the country was shadowed by dictatorship.

The Knife of Never Letting Go
This is one of my most recent reads, it tells a tale of a boy in a foreign planet who has developed a disease where all his thoughts can be heard out loud. It’s a YA fiction book, and it’s pretty amazing. I predict it might be in the running for the next YA film franchise.

The Graveyard Book
This book, quite simply is amazing. The tale tells of a boy who grows up in a cementary surrounded by ghosts. Half in this world and half in the next, he never feels at home anywhere. For anyone who is multicultural and always feels like they are in the middle of different worlds, this book is definitely an interesting read.

A New Mind – Paul Lample

An amazing book about spirituality and science and redefining our notions of it.

Best Place to Check out if you can : Sintra, Portugal
A beautiful magical city with weird twisting underground caves… and if you do go make sure you stay in ” Cosa di Mortas” which is one my friend’s hostal. It’s simply breathtaking to go there and see this little part of paradise which most people don’t know about. The tiles, the castles ( twenty of them !), the little coffee shops, the pebbled roads and the little winding houses are all amazing.


The Boy Crazy Club

At a certain age, girls are supposed to be ” boy crazy” and this continues on for years till they become adults.There are thousands of magazines, books, movies and television shows dedicated to girls analyzing, agonizing and antagonizing over boys. Are these merely a result of girls minds or are they what influences girls to think this way?
The other day, I was leafing through a magazine which had to be targetted towards 12-14 year olds. The whole magazine was boys, boys,boys. This wasn’t the problem. The problem was deeper than this. There were some really warped values that the magazine promoted. Take an article that talked about ” Girl Man Eaters” and how you should beware of these girls taking away your ” man”. They were promoting a notion that if a boy cheated, the other woman was responsible and not only that, you should not complain or nag and be with him at all times. This horrible magazine was promoting competition, basing your self worth on a boy, tolerating cheating and in some ways bullying. The boys were never to blame it was always those evil girls out to take their ” man”.

Let’s stop here for a moment. These girls are 12 at the most, but are being talked to as if they were 22. This is not surprising because teenage targeted tv shows and films feature girls in their twenties PRETENDING to be girls in their teens. In today’s society girls are taught that they should be thinking like a 22 year old at age 11. This gives a sense of false empowerment, where girls BELIEVE they are somehow deciding something by following how these shows think. It’s actually the opposite.

Very rarely do teens get a realistic depiction of what they are going through because it is not teens themselves who are creating this media but something outside of themselves. The only thing they are concerned with depicting are relationships. Is it no wonder that all the supposedly ” girl oriented” media out there is mostly dedicated to this as well? That women dedicate an inordinate amount of time speaking about relationships as a due cause?

There is nothing wrong with being boy crazy. When I was ten, I started a club called the ” boy crazy club” and put posters all over the walls of a secret closet nook underneath the stairs . We would convene every week to talk about all the cute boys. We would stalk cute boys near the hallway. We would call them and then hang up.
Sure this was fine. But what I wish someone had told me then is that it didn’t have to be the only thing I thought about. That I didn’t have to base all my self worth on whether I had a date or not. That there would be time for this later, and there were so many things to learn and discover.

With so many applications and technological advances, and the general blame attitude towards sexuality I can’t help but think it gets worse now. But the concepts still remain the same, girls become emotionally invested in relationships. The prince to come save the princess.

Let’s look at the depiction of boys. Boys are supposed to be overly hormonal, and usually with a ” men” magazine, women are merely inanimate objects that they can drool over. In some cultures, you are not a man until you have had sex. I remember when I was in eighth grade, some of the fathers forced their kids to go to prostitutes so they can become a ” man”. I am not sure what this means, how does becoming sexually active equate you becoming a man? What does becoming a man mean? Why does objectifying women and satiating your sexual appetite somehow mean you ” grew up”?

Because I work with teens in that age group, all of these concepts make me think. How about considering that your worth comes from the virtues and values you create, your spiritual self, of serving others and empowering positive change. By deflecting things that are just about ” you” and promoting selfish and narcissistic concepts you try to see a way to become a better person.

Furthermore, if relationships are based on this value, they will become more enriching. I think of the two gypsy girls in Madrid. How their only hope was to get married at 13 like their parents. They did not want to continue studying, or do anything else. Was this worse than the girls in El Salvador who go from boy to boy? I am not sure. But I wish for them something different. Something that has to do with finding that fabric of who they are, rising above like phoenixes and seeing their potential whether or not they are with a boy.